It's Time to Start Over

Endings are tough, and yet they can bring amazing new beginnings.

Starting over…with a difference!

The world today is in transition, as it always has been. Statues have been raised and taken down. Huge structures have been built and collapse. Global illness has damaged economies, altered career paths and changed our lives forever. Our own tried and true familiar strategies have been tested – and some have failed.

These moments of failure can tear at the very fabric of our being. We feel the strong emotions of a disappointed child – fear, disappointment and loss, deep sadness, and grief. Perhaps we feel a familiar tug of shame and embarrassment (how could I? why did I?) and feel like we ARE the failure when all or part of our life falters and falls part. Or become so discouraged it seems like going on is too much, too big a struggle.

If you have felt some or all of these emotions, you’re not alone. I’ve experienced the pain of endings and had to start over. I’ve had to pick up the pieces when what was no longer exists. And put the shattered bits together into a new pattern.

Yet in these personally painful moments, I’ve also found a liberating and freeing time of great change and transformation.

And in my work as a coach and sensitive, I’ve been blessed to walk with many of my clients on this same path from endings to new beginnings… into transformation.

Here are the top three things my clients and I have learned:

1. Reflection can help you see the weaknesses and contributing issues that led to the current place or identify a rocky foundation – and help you rebuild a stronger base for the future.

2. When we don’t see ourselves clearly, sometimes a coach can help identify the habits and mindsets that drag us down. Having seen many others, they can often identify a common pattern that might resonate for you and help shorten your learning curve.

3. Sometimes our analytical mind drives us towards a path that our emotional self is just not comfortable with. Yet we do best when our hearts and minds are in concert, instead of conflict. Our best path forward does need to be smart – but it also needs us to be emotionally present and all in.

When we’re able to acknowledge, allow and let go of the pain of the past and tenderly embrace each new beginning we become stronger. With our new understandings we can safely follow our heart and mind to a new path…the new and stronger start to the rest of your life.